BEAUTY

So what is beauty? Can anyone really and truthfully give me a difention what is beauty, I can show someone and say this is pure beauty this is what everyone should look like, but I am wrong if I do this because everyone in their own right is beauty.

So I had originally been working on something else to put on the blog today so please bare with me, yesterday someone made the statement that I am ugly. I am not angry at the fact the person called me it, I am more angry that as an adult they don’t know the consequences of such words. I believe it was last month I said we need to take a greater reasonability to show the youth of today that beauty comes in all different shapes, sizes, and looks that we can not leave it for the media to do.

It’s a fact that some individuals self harm, try and commit suicide, commit suicide, turn to drugs and alcohol because they don’t think they are pretty enough. They’ve been told by their friends, peers, society and family that their body images is not good enough when this going to stop when are we going to wake and say Enough?

Nigel Barker “Defining  beauty has been a holy grail for countless cultures throughout time, each putting their own spin on the notion of beauty, often with dreadful consequences”

So I beg the question is it really worth this constant battle to have someone tell you are beautiful? I just feel it needs to come from within we need to have the confidence in our own body images to not give a damn to be frank of what people think, we waste to much time and energy on trying to be accepted by peers, society, friends and family.

The word ugly is such a powerful word, when said to someone. The word ugly is often used as a weapon to hurt, be little a person, the term ugly is also used to describe a unpleasant situation.

“1. Unpleasant or repulsive, esp. in appearance: "she thought she was ugly and fat".

2. (of a situation or mood) Involving or likely to involve violence or other unpleasantness: "the mood in the room turned ugly".  

So this begs the question what gives one person the right to call another person ugly?

Because she called me ugly does this mean I have to question myself? NO call me ugly as for me ugly means  I am different from everyone, so I thank her, she can’t use such a powerful word on me because I just don’t care what she thinks.

I am not here to tell you what to say to people, what to call people I just really what you to think what if someone said it to and you was the type of person that had low self esteem, a lack of the fundamental confidence how would you feel?

When I gave a talk to Hackney Quest I said to them there is a difference saying something in you and saying something out a loud. When you say something aloud you have the intention to hurt, to be little to make that person question them self what gives us the right to so this to someone.

It frustrates me that many young women don’t have the self confidence and the self believe in them self. I wish if I could I will build this within them and get them to the point of realising their own beauty.

I feel that I am going on a bit and losing my point. I am going to leave you with this beauty is happiness, its going a full day without receiving a single compliment and being a 100% confident you look amazing only when you tell your self that your beautiful would somebody’s words not matter not count. That saying of they will fall on deaf ears you can’t hear something that can’t affect you.

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